He’s just too nice for me! PART II

So, last year I did a post on not wanting to date wimpy guys.

Wowzer! I received a lot more feedback than I expected to.  While I agree with most of you on what you said, I couldn’t help but feel slighty insulted and attacked by one of my readers.

Dear Doe wrote:

There’s nothing like a black woman to remind me of how ignorant our species can get. I hate it when women assume that a guy is trying to impress you. Some guys are just nice. Period. Straight up. Some guys are just flat out nice; who give out compliments and hold the door open and offer to buy you stuff, not because we’re acting, but because its the gentlemanly thing to do. But oh no, not with you women. You automatically assume that a guy is acting. Nobody can be this nice. He has to be trying to impress me. Maybe its a thing where the fact that WE ARE NICE should impress you. If you’re so head set on dating a jackass, go find one and don’t insult the good men out there who are just being themselves. And you obviously haven’t dated too many good guys just by looking at your description of them. Calling you ten times a day? Really? Come on now. Off your high horse please. You obviously date the wrong types of men. So don’t insult the good ones just cuz you date lame niggas. Okay! Thank you.

Now I respect everyone’s opinion, but with that I expect the same in return.

The post was originally meant to spell out the type a guy that most women wouldn’t go for, i.e. the wimp. There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy, in fact, women respect it. Chivalry is by far the third most sought out thing a woman wants in a man. ( Right after good looks and a job) However, there something wrong when your niceness reads mentally unstable or potential clinger! While, Doe said a lot of things that I don’t agree with (ahem) he has a point there.

Us women do have the tendency to go after the bad boys. (The guys we know from jump are up to no good.) Yet, we still offer are souls to them and scowl the guy who buys us flowers, why is that? Personally, I’ve never been one to date a bad boy. I completely have no interest in them. In fact, their eagerness to indulge in the fast lane of life makes me cringe. But I do have girlfriends, sisters, aunts, cousins, associates etc who tend to just dive into relationships with these men. From there the heart-ache begins…

So lets start the conversation ladies…

What are the pros and cons of dating the bad boy vs the nice guy?

P.s  could this be the start of the  nice boy’s  redemption?